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Get Out of the Haze of Mediocre Living


Why do you let society dictate what you value get out of the haze of mediocre living.

Society doesn’t want you to ask questions but just to live with instant gratification and consumption. Be that good little consumer bitch by all that shit you don’t really need by that 22nd awesome clean pressed Calvin Klein t-shirt for your little ego and self-esteem. Doesn’t it feel good don’t you feel like the man.

Lets go watch some TV because “there is nothing else to do”.


Ok Its nice sometimes to have that nice car, cool clothes and nice apartment but haven’t people realised you can feel awesome all the time without all that shit its crazy instead they be passive consumers and trying to fill the void and pump their emotions with the next latest trends or craze.

You can feel awesome about yourself all the time  and you don’t need to buy shit for that but happiness requires action.

If you hate your job and are stressed when you come in and don’t have time to do the things you want then its up to you to change your situation. Work is supposed to be rewarding in my view more work equals more rewards and rewards are to be found in the work you do.

“The Things you own end up owing you. It’s only after you lose everything that you’re free to do anything.” – Tyler Durdun, Fight Club.

Don’t become the Ikea boy like the narrator in the Fight Club Film. He says how he too has become “a slave to the Ikea nesting instinct”. Actually Tyler suggests in the film we “ought to evolve and stop trying to be perfect”.

I mean really who wants to be the Ikea boy narrator who is obviously beyond boredom, schizoid – profoundly lonely, uninterested in any personal relationship. He finds comfort in his comforters and completion in his complete set of “glass dishes with tiny bubbles and imperfections, proof that they were crafted by honest, simple, hard-working, indigenous peoples of-whatever”.

Jack Donovan the author of The Way of Men says that we are just a bonobo mastrubation society which I agree with and that our society now is very much full of emasculated males with obsessive concerns for profits, consumption, commercial values, equality and female interests.

There is more men now raised in divorced and single parents households than ever before.He says we should strive for tactical virtues such as strength, courage, mastery and honor. Men aren’t getting more rational, they’re getting weaker, they’re getting more fearful and they’re giving up more and more control. There is no high road and the only way out for men is The Way of the Gang.

Modern men lack initiation into manhood so they lack meaningful trials of strength and courage. Modern men won’t truly “know themselves” as their forefathers did.

I bet a lot of young men feel trapped by mind numbing and dehumanizing jobs and in certain circles of men discontent appears in the sense that contemporary society emasculates men, robs them of their “manly” virtues and capacities of self-assertion, of their ethos of brotherhood, honor and independence. While leveling all social existence down to a bland , dready “ playing nice”.

To put in the words of Tyler Durden “ How much can you know about yourself, if you’ve never been in a fight?”. Tai Lopez says the same thing “never trust a man who hasn’t been punched in the face”. You have to have courage in your own self-worth and confidence to stand up and learn self-defence so when a fight comes your way you are not a helpless victim and you can backup your friends.

Who would you want as a friend the guy who can back you up or the guy who is a coward and scared to get hit. Actually Mike from Dangerandplay.com wrote a great article Self defence 101: Situational Awareness is Everything which everyone reading this should have a look at.

Being a victim is a choice.

Take the red pill and plug out of group think you have a choice

Neo Realising he is enough

You’re not a horrible person if you want to abandon and not conform to norms think of some of heroes who did this in their lives fictional and in real life e.g. Luke Skywalker, Benjamin Franklin,  Charles Darwin, Tom Sawyer and Jon Krakauer.

Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) loved nature,freedom and individuality. He lived simply and deliberately in the woods, being self-sufficient and writing down what he felt most deeply about.

But more than writing down about it he lived these ideas he thought about. Walden is great book to have a look at as well.

Within us we hear that voice that whispers to us “ take risks, pursue your dreams, live life to the fullest” then outside us society and your inner critic screams, “Don’t be a fool, you’re going to fail, be like everyone else, if you do what you want you’re being selfish and hurting others.”

Another person that I think everyone should read and look up from the transcendentalist movement is Ralph Waldo Emerson. Society demands conformity at the expense of individual liberty, he asserts – it demands that you fit in or be an outcast. Read the essentials writings of Ralph Waldo Emerson and apply it to your own life.

We are sometimes so entrapped by our own self-expectations and self-imposed limiting beliefs  that we fail to see that we have always had the keys to our own prison- we’re just scared shitless to use them.

Here is an idea that you might of heard of.

Plato’s Allegory of the Cave

 Plato asks us to imagine a cave at the bottom there is a group of prisoners who are shackled. Here is a drawing:


Plato was a student of Socrates and he came up with the concept which really explains how some people feel about being plugged into The Matrix .

Morpheus tells Neo he was “ Born into a prison for his mind” even slaves, prisoners of war, and concentration camp victims sometimes manage to keep their minds free but its a battle of will e.g. Viktor Frankl who wrote Man’s Search For Meaning which is a great book which I highly recommend checking out was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor. Frankl was the founder of logotherapy as well.

Like Plato’s Prisoner Neo find himself in chain or more precisely  by black wires and Neo is first Horrified by the sight of the other witting prisoners who slumber, plugged into gooey pink stuff. Neo Does not want to accept that what he now can see is real, that previously he had been living in a dream world.

A real Life example is someone like Nelson Mandela who stepped up and got shit done he was being suppressed by social conditioning in his time.

You got to stand for what you believe in.

He transformed not only himself but an entire culture and nation. When you step out into sunlight and out of the box society, friends, family and sometimes yourself put you in. You can expand your comfort zone so you can grow and move forward.

One of the worst things for me personally is we are seeing this immersion an integration of worldwide cultures due to the internet, technology advancements and rapid americanisation of other countries.

The world would be a boring place if in the future there wasn’t any unique places and different people and cultures.

Image a place like Equilibrium the movie and Aldous Huxley Brave New World type scenarios in the future really scary to think about that kind of stuff.

If you are one of the men plugged in and just getting on with work, coming in from hard days work and not trying to get a little wiser and healthier each and everyday then you need to look at yourself in the mirror and  if you don’t like what you see lying to yourself and denying the truth isn’t going to help matters.

“You have to understand most of these people are not ready to be unplugged and many of them are so inert so hopelessly dependent on the system that they will fight to protect it ” – Morpheus

Some people are so plugged in as good little consumers its an addiction and its hard for them change. Its like Flatland: A Romance of Many Dimensions which is an 1884 satirical novella by the English schoolmaster Edwin Abbott where one day a square is visited by a sphere and dragged to the other side from two dimensional world to this three-dimensional world.

The square was awestruck by it all.

In some ways sometimes we can be the square failing to understand a certain view of the world and have learned a certain way of life and not see the potential we have in this magical and  extraordinary world we live in and the life we could be leading.

When I first read about game or pick up it was a revelation to me and after seeing behind the curtains its pretty hard to go back to being a chode shifting my old paradigms. You become aware like the square back in your two dimensional world the subtle things differences in people and the world around you.

On his return the the square tries to preach “Gospel of Three Dimensions” to his fellow two-dimensional creatures- but it was in vain.  I tried to tell my friends about pick-up and they just laughed and said they already knew what women wanted. I give up trying because some guys just have too many cognitive biases.

On a side note

In pick-up we would call a mediocre guy an AFC – Average Frustrated Chump I first saw this term In The Game By Neil Strauss ages ago by mystery a pick-up artist who has his own book The Mystery Method but anyways an AFC has certain qualities such as:

  1. No clue about man to women social dynamics and leading
  2. Disney land romantic notions
  3. Gets onetis in every girl he dates due to scarcity
  4. Has internalized beliefs that qualification and characterization of women coincides with his ability to attract women e.g. she out of my league or shes a slut.
  5. Puts girls on pedestal
  6. White knight Mentality
  7. Providers and protectors – There nothing brave about giving women everything they ask for this is called being a chump.

Stages for unplugging usually happens with resentment at all those years wasted and blaming others for your problems.

It starts at home with you. You have to take responsibility of where your actions have lead and you have to be the one to change your circumstances not anyone else.

The first steps to unplugging this preconditioned learned helplessness and mediocrities is to recognise that your condition and the way you have been living has led us your belief systems that are now a part of your integral life and personalities.

You have to unlearn what you have learned.

You have to unlearn old behaviours and condition new ones in order to move forward on course.The more and more you’re aware, the more and more you shed from day to day what you you have learned so that your mind is always fresh, unconditioned by previous conditioning.

“Real power is the degree to which a person has control over their circumstances. Real Power is the degree to which we actually control the directions of our lives” – Rollo Tomassi

Rollo tomassi on his blog and in the book The Rational Male states The 5 Stages of Unplugging which you can apply to game but also life.

  1. Denial- Still Plugged In “People who learn pick-up there is no way that would work on Jenny. Jenny wouldn’t sleep with these type of men.
  2. Anger – Post Red Pill Awareness “ Why can’t I be jacked and good looking  so I can be natural with women I suck”
  3. Bargaining  – Unplugged “Wow I didn’t know that about women maybe this has some good points still though jenny is out of my league”
  4. Depression – Bitter taste of Red Pill “Its hard to approach women I get rejecting and dirty looks and douchebag guys get all the pussy I suck at game and the world sucks FML”
  5. Acceptance – Awareness “Maybe this is the way things really work. I guess RSD are right”
  6. Jaded –  “Fucking learning pick-up I cba. Whats the point in going up to chat with women anyway”.

The stages of unplugging are there in order to find a solution for problems in life for self-actualisation.

The main point article is don’t let mass media, the education system, society , friends and family all that constant pressure dictate what you do with your life.

The greeks believed in arete and telos so should you. Arete means excellence, virtue or goodness, especially of a sort of function and telos which means purpose and a goal.

Aristotle was saying the good life (eudaimonia) is one where you develop your strengths , realize your potential, and become what it is in your nature to become.

He used the metaphor that people are like archers, who need a target at which to aim. Without a target or goal a lion to roam free by himself will certainly lead him to death if he is alone because a lone lion has no future.Instead seek your own gang and pride and conditions that will make you flourish in ones love and work.

“ There is nothing impossible to him who will try” – Alexander the Great


The Rational Male By Rollo Tomassi

Striking thoughts – Bruce Lee’s Wisdom For Daily Living by John Little

Fight Club By Thomas E. Wartenberg

The Way Of Men  By Jack Donovan

The Matrix and Philosophy By William Irwin


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